Jumping Through Hoops
Something that has stuck out to me lately is just how much we have to prove to become adoptive parents. It’s like, all we want to do is to get to our baby, but there are so many hoops to jump through. “How much money do you make?” Hoop. “Have you REALLY worked through your pregnancy losses?” Hoop. “Does your counselor think you are emotionally fit to be parents?” Hoop. Systematically, we are having to prove that we are good enough to be parents. Feelings of bitterness can easily settle in and make us think, “Why doesn’t everyone have to answer this/do this before having a family??” It all feels like insult to injury.
I was having a difficult time with this bitterness when a thought leapt into my head, and it brought me to my knees in thanksgiving. “I am so glad I didn’t have to jump through any hoops when God adopted me.” Ephesians 1:5 says, “God decided in advance to adopt us into His family by bringing us to Himself through Jesus Christ. This is what He wanted to do. And it gave Him great pleasure.” Wow. God didn’t decide to adopt us because of all we had proven to Him, but through the precious, sacrificial gift of His son, Jesus. And even more, it says it gave God great pleasure to do so! Dwelling on this makes me so eager to see what other kinds of hoops we will jump through to get to our sweet baby. Because I cannot wait for him or her to know this unconditional love like I do. To all of you doing hard things, stay the course. I think it all just might be worth it.