The path that led us here…
We, (JP and Rachel), met in middle school, fell in love in high school, and got married in college. We actively started trying to build our family almost 4 years ago, but our journey to becoming parents began long before that. Rachel always dreamed of being a mother. She actually doesn’t remember a time where that wasn’t the foremost longing in her heart. Anyone who knows her can attest to the fact that if there is a child in the room, she is gravitationally pulled towards them. JP is no different. Rachel has never seen children drawn to a person the way they are drawn to JP. It’s one of the things that made her fall in love with him. It’s in our bones to be parents. But slowly, as month after month passed, we wondered why we weren’t getting pregnant.
After over a year of trying, we finally found an OB-GYN who would listen to us.
Rachel took medication. Got pregnant. Lost our twins. Rachel took more medication. Got pregnant again. Lost our sweet Mia Jaye. We did IUI, IVF, and yet again, got pregnant, and lost our baby boy. Our hearts broke. Over . . . and over . . . and over.
In our final meeting with our fertility specialist, we not only found out that we had lost our little boy, but also found out that Rachel would most likely never be able to carry a pregnancy to term. Our specialist went through a checklist of all the known potential issues that may leave a couple more susceptible to recurrent pregnancy loss, but we didn’t check any of the boxes. At the bottom of his list were three menacing question marks:
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He said, “I’m so sorry to say, but you are question mark people. I’ve done all science knows to do.”
Then, we started seeing a therapist. Even with a supportive spouse, family, and friends, and a deep hope in Jesus, the loss of a child is unbearably heartbreaking. Through counseling, we realized that more than we wanted to be pregnant, we wanted to be parents. This was no flippant decision. It is a process…an ongoing process…to let go of the dream of having a child biologically, and to trust that what God has for us is better than our hearts even know to dream.
We decided to slow down, to take time to process, and to pray. We desperately needed to talk and laugh and dream again.
After 6 months of talking and laughing and crying and dreaming and praying, we went to lunch at one of our favorite little Mexican restaurants in Dallas.
“Honey,” JP said. “I don’t know how you’ve been feeling, but . . . .” Rachel cut him off because she had something to say too.
“Let’s both say what we’ve been thinking on the count of three,” Rachel said.
“One, two, three…” we both paused, hoping the other would share first, and we started laughing.
Our laughter quieted and we looked in each other’s eyes. Quietly, almost in a whisper, we counted together.
“One, two, three . . .”
“I want to adopt,” we both said in unison. Honestly - that’s what happened! We thank God for giving us clear unity in that moment.
We smiled big at one another, and tears filled our eyes.
“Are we going to do this?” JP said.
“I think so,” Rachel said. “But I don’t know how we’ll do it.”
“Me either,” JP said. “But I do know one thing.”
“We’ll do it together.”
So, what now?
We are adopting!
We have decided to adopt because we are ready, willing, and able to provide a loving home to a child. We know that stepping into adoption is not only welcoming a new child, but also willfully choosing to step into someone else’s hurt and pain. It will be an honor to do both.
We are doing a domestic infant adoption.
We have chosen to do a domestic infant adoption as opposed to an international adoption or adopting a child through foster care. We have prayed as well as sought the counsel of friends and mentors that have adopted to make this decision. In the future we may potentially adopt another child internationally or through foster care.
We are working with Gladney Center for Adoption.
We researched and spoke with a lot of agencies, but Gladney most aligned with our family and values. Gladney is based in Fort Worth, Texas and was founded in the 1880s. Learn more here.
We are raising money.
Adoption is expensive. $47,500 to be exact (read our FAQs for more information on where all of the money goes). In a perfect world we’d be able to pay that out of pocket today, but the truth is, with each miscarriage came massive medical bills. So, in the real world, we need help raising that money. We don’t like asking for money, but we would be so thankful if you chose to partner with us financially.
We are going to keep you updated.
This website will continually be updated throughout the process. As we move from stage to stage we’ll let you know.
First and foremost, please pray for us, our future birth parents, and future Baby Hennessy. We can’t wait to see how God uses adoption to connect all of us. Second, donate if you can! Click Here to do so. To have some of your questions answered, read our FAQ section or peruse the blog. It will continue to be updated throughout our adoption journey. Reach out to us with questions. Also, if you know of anyone looking to make an adoption plan for their child, please feel free to connect us.